6 Guides To Watching Porn With Your Partner

Watching porn with a partner can be a sensitive topic when discussed. Some couple find it awkward, some find it pleasuring, while others find it distracting. It often leads couple to new discoveries like new sex position, new techniques on how to reach climax, new foreplays, and new fetishes.

How watching porn together impact sex life is in a way couples are more open to each other discussing things they both like and dislike on bed. They can vocalize their feelings out without embarrassment. It can feel intimidating at some point, seeing those long foreplays and flood tide orgasm thinking not all you see in porn videos are “100% real”, but it can really be healthy, pleasuring and arousing. 

However, there are concerns about watching porn with a partner. Sometimes people get jealous of their partner watching porn thinking they are not satisfying them enough because of a need to watch porn while they’re on bed both naked. There is also a notion that your partner might judge you for not liking your preferred sex videos. And there is also a concern that a couple never makes it through the whole video because they are both distracted with each other. 

To avoid these concerns, here are the six guides on how to watch porn with your partner;

  1. Pick up a sex video that you and your partner would definitely be into. 

If your concern is about your preferred type of sex video might be judged, pick up a sex video that you and your partner would both enjoy. This will shatter the embarrassment and will make you more bonded. You will be more focused and excited because you are both enjoying the scenes. In some cases, your partner may not enjoy what you are watching, so be flexible. 

  1. Try some new type of sex videos. 

There are different types of sex videos according to sexual orientation. If you two want to go milder, opt to Wall-to-Wall kind of sex videos. These videos have little dialogue to get you excited on what’s going to happen next. The thought of what’s going to happen next will tickle your mind, thus creating more arousing state. You may find that you and your partner enjoy different types of movies, so keep exploring.

  1. Touch yourself. 

Masturbation while watching porno is a healthy sexual development you can do. It could be done on your own, or with a help from your partner. But often times, masturbation done by your partner will lead you to unfinished porn viewing. If you want longer foreplay, do not let your partner touch you. There are couples who watch porn movies while the other one is doing the thing down there. This makes them more pleasured and aroused. Whatever style you prefer, make sure to touch yourself or your partner while watching.

  1. You and your partner are not porn stars, so don’t compare yourselves to them.

As said earlier, what you see on porn videos are not 100% real. There are fake boobs, fake vagina, fake climax, etc. When you watch them and compare yourself after, you will feel ashamed and insecure because your body is not perfect, your vagina is not pinkish, your boob is not firm, your penis is not large, and so on. Feeling ashamed and insecure will only lower your confidence and libido. So stop comparing yourselves to porn stars. Remember, they do it for business and you watch porn for pleasure. 

  1. Set boundaries.

Though watching porn can spice up your sex life, it can also lead to jealousy and resentment once you and your partner are not on the same page. It is okay to watch porn with your partner, but doing it when you want to hurry the process can lead to a less enjoyable sexual intercourse and will lessen your bond. There’s nothing more pleasurable than a longer foreplay.

  1. Discuss your sexual fantasies with your partner after watching porn videos. 

If you have sexual fantasies you picked from watching porn videos with your partner, discuss them. Look at the elements of the fantasy you know you can do or your partner can do. Don’t insist on something you know your partner is not comfortable of doing just because you have seen it pleasuring in the porn you have watched. The key to a successful sex after watching porn is when both you will put the arousal as a start of an erogenous sex. 

 

2018-05-07T13:17:33+00:00